- Judgment-free support for every stage of your journey
- Personalized and dynamic live and on-demand support
- Practical tools for communication, jealousy, and agreements
- Custom blend of human compassion and AI support resources
Build and evolve relationships that feel open, honest, and deeply nourishing for all
Modern Support for Modern Relationships
ENM is a relationship structure where people consensually engage in romantic, sexual, or emotional connections with more than one partner, while being honest about it.
At its core, its about designing relationships intentionally to fit the values, needs, and boundaries of those involved—rather than following a one-size-fits-all model.
Ethical Non-Monogamy
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I’m a relationship coach based in Amsterdam, specializing in ethical non-monogamy and open relationships.
My work began in art direction, where I learned how to take what’s hidden and make it visible. That lens now shapes my coaching: giving people tools to see and understand what’s really happening beneath the surface of their relationships.
My own journey into non-monogamy, alongside my husband, showed me how powerful love can be with clarity and care—and how confusing it can feel without the right support.
Hi, I'm Victoria
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Expert commentary on love, non-monogamy, and the role of AI in modern relationships for interviews, podcasts, and publications.
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Interactive sessions that teach practical tools for communication, boundaries, and connection in non-monogamous relationships.
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Empathy-driven, AI-enhanced coaching for singles and partners who want support in navigating ethical non-monogamy.
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— "a"
"Victoria offers such a practical approach. She is very attentive and gentle and helped me put words to difficult situations and conflicting emotions. Her detailed coaching notes were helpful and I return to them often. She helped me stay motivated towards necessary change and foster hope where things got stuck.
— "michael p"
"Honestly, dating was a total nightmare for me. I felt lost and overwhelmed until I met Highlighting Harmony. She’s like the coolest dating guru ever! With her help, I found my groove and a wonderful partner.
— "JJ"
"Victoria is kind, empathetic, and easy to open up to. She made me feel heard and supported without any pressure or judgment. I appreciated the practical advice and simple, realistic tips she gave me — they helped me take small but important steps forward.
What stood out the most was how present and thoughtful she was throughout the entire process. I’m really glad I had her support, and I’d definitely recommend her to anyone looking for guidance with mindset work, emotional blocks, or relationship dynamics.
— "Saskia J."
"Working with Victoria has been a game-changer for us. Her guidance brought clarity, communication, and passion back into our relationship. Highly recommend!
— "B.H"
"I'd been stuck in a monotonous relationship for years, scared to embrace non-monogamy. Victoria’s coaching sessions inspired me to take the leap, and it's been exhilarating! My love life is a vibrant tapestry now, all thanks to their wisdom and unwavering support.
Discover what coaching can do for your relationship.
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Some clients have breakthroughs in the first few sessions while others take more time to process, integrate and adjust. The more open and committed you are, the faster you will see changes in your life.
How long does it take?
Prices vary depending on the coaching package you choose. One off sessions are currently priced at €75/session, while multi-session packages bring the price down to €50/session.
how much does it cost?
Absolutely. This is a safe and affirming space for all genders, sexualities, and relationship structures.
Is this LGBTQIA+ friendly?
I support individuals, couples, and multi-partner relationships of all races, genders and sexual orientations.
who do you work with?
No. I am a certified coach, not a licensed therapist. While it is often a therapeutic experience, it’s distinctly separate from traditional therapy. Coaching is future-focused, practical, and designed to give you tools you can apply right away. I also offer accountability and out-of-session on-call access so you feel supported every step of the way.
is this the same as therapy?
Not at all. Whether you're curious about non-monogamy but unsure how to begin, struggling with communication or boundaries or opening a long-term partnership and needing guidance or part of a multi-partner relationship seeking stability and balance, you're encouraged to book a free discovery call.
