Notes on love, uncertainty, and living without a script

Essays

A reflective essay on how inherited ideas about relationships shape what we believe love should look like.

When Love Stops Following a Script

March 24, 2026

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A personal essay on consent over time, emotional fatigue, and why relationship agreements need to evolve. Reflections on open relationships, autonomy, and sustainable love.

We agreed to this. So why did it still hurt?

February 3, 2026

Reflection

@2026 victoria onken
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Victoria Onken is a relationship coach helping individuals and couples navigate ethical non-monogamy, open relationships, and complex relationship transitions with clarity, care, and thoughtful support.

Based in amsterdam
coaching worldwide online
open to travel for live events

Essays

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When Love Stops Following a Script

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We agreed to this. So why did it still hurt?