You've discovered there is a huge gap between what you know and what you feel.
You have the words for it now. The words aren't making it stop. Your partner's phone lights up and your stomach drops. You know it isn't supposed to mean what it used to mean. It still does.
you're here for a reason
- Beneath the agreement: what your body is doing while your mind is being reasonable. The jealousy you didn't think you'd feel. The fear that doesn't follow the rules. The longing you can't name out loud yet.
- Inside the conversations: with your partner, with yourself, with the version of you that agreed to this six months ago. How to talk about what's actually happening, instead of around it.
- Around the relationship: the people you love who don't have the language for any of this. The half-truths at dinner tables. The performances at school pickups. The editing of yourself you've been doing just to stay in the room.
Below the agreement. Inside the conversations.
WHAT WE WORK ON
That's the work. Not certainty. Not a finished answer. The conditions for steadiness, which is the precondition for every decision that holds.
You may end up changing nothing in your life. You may end up changing one conversation. You may end up changing the shape of your relationship. All three are real outcomes of this work. None of them is a failure.
You leave with more steadiness than you came in with.
What to expect
What clients say
testimonials
— "a"
"Victoria is a god-send. Navigating the complexity of modern relationships is such a challenge and Victoria's expertise, presence, vibe and coaching container is such a helpful part of this process. She is super professional, forward thinking and it really feels like she cares. I only wish I had found her coaching sooner since it would have saved me so much heartbreak as I navigated the world of polyamory!"
— "michael p"
"Had a great conversation with Victoria, feel motivated and excited! Thank you very much 🙏"
— "JJ"
"My partner and I were at crossroads. Our relationship philosophies didn't align. Victoria is kind, empathetic, and easy to open up to. She made me feel heard and supported without any pressure or judgment. I appreciated the practical advice and simple, realistic tips she gave me. She helped me take small but important steps forward. What stood out the most was how present and thoughtful she was throughout the entire process. I'm really glad I had her support, and I'd definitely recommend her to anyone looking for guidance with mindset work, emotional blocks, or relationship dynamics."
"Victoria offers such a practical approach. She is very attentive and gentle and helped me put words to difficult situations and conflicting emotions. Her detailed coaching notes were helpful and I return to them often. She helped me stay motivated towards necessary change and foster hope where things got stuck."
"Victoria has lovely energy. Immediately, she put us at ease, understood our needs and helped us immensely. We highly recommend her."
- Google review
- Couple, Google review
— "A"
Coaching is the center of the practice. Around it: essays on ENM, open relationships, and the lives around them, speaking on the cultural and emotional architecture of relational diversity, and a course in development for therapists who want to be ENM-competent without learning at their clients' expense.
I work in English and Russian. I see a small number of clients at a time, so each one gets the attention this work needs.
Hi, I'm Victoria.
I work specifically in ENM and open relationships. The vocabulary, the dynamics, the situations. You don't have to teach me.
A good therapist asks where this came from.
I ask what you want next.
WHY THIS IS COACHING
Yes to all of it. Some of my work is one-on-one with one partner. Some is with both partners together. Some is with three or four people in the room. We figure out the right shape on the discovery call.
Do you work with couples, throuples, larger configurations?
Single session: $120 USD.
Four-session container: $440, with WhatsApp access between sessions.
Twelve-session quarterly: $1,200, with full concierge access.
All online, in English and Russian. VAT applies depending on location.
How much does coaching cost?
It's a free, twenty-minute conversation. We talk about what's happening in your relationship and whether coaching might help. It's also a chance for you to feel out my approach. There's no pressure to book anything after.
What happens during the discovery call?
Many of my clients start working with me before they've said anything out loud to their partner. Part of the work is figuring out if, when, and how that conversation happens. None of that is on my timeline.
What if my partner doesn't know I'm thinking about this?
This is for you if you've read enough, talked enough, and tried enough to know you need more than another book. If you have a relationship you love and a life you don't want to blow up. If you're navigating between cultures, between families, between the relationship you have and the one you're trying to figure out.
This isn't for you if you want me to fix your relationship for you. I can't, nobody can. If you're in acute mental health crisis or active addiction, you need a clinician first; I'm happy to work alongside one. If you want a set of rules that will make jealousy stop, the rules don't do that. If you want me to tell your partner they're wrong, that isn't the room I run.
Who is this for, and who is it not for?
Common questions
After every session, you get a working doc with summaries, takeaways, and any exercises that came up. Every fourth session includes a short pattern analysis. The doc is yours to keep. You can share it with your therapist, your partner, or no one at all.
What happens between sessions?
It varies. Some people come for a single session to think one thing through. Most settle into the four-session container. A real number stay for the quarterly container while they navigate an active transition. I'll tell you what I think is the right shape after the discovery call.
