- Judgment-free support for every stage of ethical non-monogamy
- Personalized coaching for individuals and couples
- Practical tools for communication, jealousy, and relationship agreements
- A thoughtful blend of human empathy and AI-enhanced support
Build and evolve relationships that feel open, honest, and deeply nourishing for all
Modern Support for Modern Relationships
Love that expands beyond traditional relationship structures can be deeply meaningful, and sometimes unexpectedly complex.
Jealousy, miscommunication, and shifting boundaries often appear when relationships begin to evolve. Coaching offers a space to slow down, understand what’s happening, and move forward with clarity and care.
Coaching for Love
Beyond the Familiar
NAVIGATING LOVE BEYOND TRADITIONAL BOUNDARIES
Ethical non-monogamy (ENM) describes relationship structures where people consensually form romantic, emotional, or sexual connections with more than one partner while remaining honest and transparent with each other.
At its core, it’s about designing relationships intentionally, shaping agreements that reflect the values, needs, and boundaries of the people involved, rather than following a single traditional model.
Ethical Non-Monogamy
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I’m a relationship coach based in Amsterdam, specializing in ethical non-monogamy and open relationships.
My path into this work began in art direction, where I learned to notice what often stays hidden beneath the surface. That perspective now shapes my coaching. I help people understand what is really happening in their relationships so they can respond with clarity instead of confusion.
My own journey into non-monogamy showed me how powerful love can be when it is built on honesty and care, and how difficult it can feel without the right support.
Today I work with individuals and couples navigating open relationships, jealousy, difficult conversations, and relationship transitions.
My role is not to tell people how relationships should look, but to help them find clarity in what already exists between them.
Hi, I'm Victoria
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Expert commentary on love, ethical non-monogamy, and modern relationship structures for podcasts, interviews, and publications.
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Interactive sessions exploring communication, boundaries, jealousy, and relationship design in ethical non-monogamy and modern partnerships.
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Support for individuals and couples navigating ethical non-monogamy, open relationships, and difficult relationship conversations.
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— "a"
"Victoria offers such a practical approach. She is very attentive and gentle and helped me put words to difficult situations and conflicting emotions. Her detailed coaching notes were helpful and I return to them often. She helped me stay motivated towards necessary change and foster hope where things got stuck.
— "michael p"
"Honestly, dating was a total nightmare for me. I felt lost and overwhelmed until I met Highlighting Harmony. She’s like the coolest dating guru ever! With her help, I found my groove and a wonderful partner.
— "JJ"
"Victoria is kind, empathetic, and easy to open up to. She made me feel heard and supported without any pressure or judgment. I appreciated the practical advice and simple, realistic tips she gave me — they helped me take small but important steps forward.
What stood out the most was how present and thoughtful she was throughout the entire process. I’m really glad I had her support, and I’d definitely recommend her to anyone looking for guidance with mindset work, emotional blocks, or relationship dynamics.
— "Saskia J."
"Working with Victoria has been a game-changer for us. Her guidance brought clarity, communication, and passion back into our relationship. Highly recommend!
— "B.H"
"I'd been stuck in a monotonous relationship for years, scared to embrace non-monogamy. Victoria’s coaching sessions inspired me to take the leap, and it's been exhilarating! My love life is a vibrant tapestry now, all thanks to their wisdom and unwavering support.
Discover what coaching can do for your relationship.
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No. Most sessions happen online, so I work with clients from many different countries.
Do I need to live in Amsterdam?
Individual sessions are €100 for 60 minutes (excluding 21% VAT). A package of four sessions is €300 (excluding 21% VAT), which comes to €75 per session.
Clients outside the Netherlands may not be charged VAT depending on location.
How much does coaching cost?
The discovery call is a short conversation where we explore what is happening in your relationship and whether coaching might be helpful. It’s also a chance for you to see if my approach feels right for you.
What happens during the discovery call?
Both. Some people come alone because they want to think through something before bringing it to their partner. Others come as a couple to navigate questions around ethical non-monogamy, jealousy, communication, or relationship agreements.
Do you work with individuals or couples?
Often it’s a moment where something in the relationship feels unsettled. That might include opening a relationship, navigating jealousy, renegotiating boundaries, or figuring out whether a relationship structure still feels right.
What do people usually come to coaching for?
Not at all. Many people reach out while they are still exploring the idea. Coaching can help you slow down, understand what you’re actually feeling, and decide whether ethical non-monogamy is something you want to pursue.
