Notes on love, uncertainty, and living without a script

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A reflective essay on how inherited ideas about relationships shape what we believe love should look like.

When Love Stops Following a Script

March 24, 2026

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Victoria Onken is a relationship coach helping individuals and couples navigate ethical non-monogamy, open relationships, and complex relationship transitions with clarity, care, and thoughtful support.

Based in amsterdam
coaching worldwide online
open to travel for live events

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When Love Stops Following a Script