Notes on love, uncertainty, and living without a script

Essays

open relationships abroad Victoria Onken

When Relationships Change Abroad

May 10, 2026

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Abstract green leaf twisting into soft loops, illustrating when freedom becomes avoidance, by Victoria Onken

When freedom starts to feel like avoidance

April 22, 2026

Reflection

Soft, inherited-feeling portrait reflecting the cultural scripts behind relationship transitions, by Victoria Onken

When Love Stops Following a Script

March 24, 2026

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Quiet morning still life evoking emotional fatigue and consent in open relationships, by Victoria Onken

We agreed to this. So why did it still hurt?

February 3, 2026

Reflection

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Victoria Onken is a relationship coach helping individuals and couples navigate ethical non-monogamy, open relationships, and complex relationship transitions with clarity, care, and thoughtful support.

Based in amsterdam
coaching worldwide online
open to travel for live events

Essays

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When Relationships Change Abroad

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When freedom starts to feel like avoidance

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When Love Stops Following a Script

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We agreed to this. So why did it still hurt?